Words of Wellbeing

Finding Your Inner Compass

I’d Follow My Heart…If Only I Knew Where It Was Going.

Follow your Heart! Do what makes you Happy!

It sounds so easy doesn’t it? Nearly all self-help advice is founded on this premise and for good reason – it is a simple and common-sense approach to wellbeing. We all KNOW deep within us that we are here to find contentment and meaning in our lives. Yet this simple advice to follow your Heart and do what makes you happy can become altogether annoying and frustrating when you have NO CLUE where your Heart is headed and NO IDEA what makes you happy. How do you follow your bliss if your Inner Compass seems to be broken?

Tantrum Therapy

Allowing Negative Attitudes and Feelings to Happen

Positive thinking, it can really screw you over. When you’re in the middle of a meltdown how do you feel when someone tries to persuade you to look at the positive or to be positive? Do you thank them and say ‘yes you’re right, how silly of me, let’s chant an affirmation’? NO - you want to tell them to shut the $#@% up and shove their positivity where the sun definitely isn’t shining…

Can You Make A Compassionate Correction?

Overcome the Fear of ‘Wrong’ to Grow and Evolve

Recently I was telling a lovely friend about the time I met Oprah and I was reminded of a few things. Woahh…back up, did I just say that? Sorry to name-drop so casually, but yes, it’s true, I have met Oprah (if you’d like to know the full story, call in for a cup of tea some time). One of the things I remember about Oprah (now we’re both just too busy to catch up so regularly) was the aura of complete peace that surrounded her. I remember thinking ‘blimey, this woman has done some work on herself.’

What is the Point of Pressure?

How to Escape a Self-Made Pressure Cooker

What is the point of pressure? I pondered this as my recent holiday came to an end. I’d spent a week living on the beach, exploring places of natural beauty and enjoying a freedom-fueling road trip. Driving through lush rain-forests and along coastal roads, I felt a sense of freedom and expansiveness. But as I reached the outskirts of the city, getting closer to home, I felt my energy change – my body began to feel heavy and tired, it was almost as if I could feel this sense of freedom coming to an end. My body was literally sensing that I wasn’t in freedom-loving territory anymore. I was coming back to routine, responsibilities, work and commitments, it was the sensation of…pressure. 

Do You Escape to the Future?

The Gift and Power of Feeling in the Present

Mindfulness seems to be everywhere. Touted as the new-age solution to all of our problems, the messages to be ‘mindful’ and ‘in the present’ are liberally plastered across all forms of social media, self-help blogs, magazine and books. But what does it even mean to be ‘in the present’ or ‘mindful’?

The other day a lovely client was telling me about how she had invested in a Mandala Colouring book. She was busily colouring away when her husband walked in to the room and asked her what the hell she was doing in that typically direct and judgemental tone that husbands seem to have. While she wanted to reply that she was ‘mindfully colouring’ in order to relieve worry and stress, achieve blissful levels of inner peace and present-moment nirvana, she felt the pang of a panicked reality check as she looked down at her pencils, it was a good question – what was she actually doing? And why? Was she mindfully colouring or colouring mindlessly?

Hearing Yourself is Healing Yourself

The Simplicity of Listening to Your Body

By the time something has manifested as an ‘issue’ or ‘problem’ in your life it has already had an interesting life span. It has enjoyed life as a thought, an intuition, a gut feeling, a gentle nudge or a quiet whisper. How many times have you had an inkling about something that turned into a fully blown problem? When you just knew something was going to go pear-shaped. In fact, if you step back from any problem that you have right now, you might find that this problem has only become a problem because you didn’t listen. To yourself. The quiet whisper that originates with your Heart (your wiser, all knowing self) and is delivered by your body in the form of a ‘gut feeling’, emotion or symptom, is unfortunately something that you have been almost trained to dismiss, ignore or override.

Is the Left Brain Always Right?

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In 1780, Professor Meinard Simon Du Pui suggested that from a medical point of view, man was Homo Duplex – that is, he possesses a ‘double brain’.  Nearly a century later, in the late 1800s, London physician Arthur Ladbroke Wigan was viewing the autopsy of one of his patients and when the skull was cut open he found one of the patient’s cerebral hemispheres was missing. Wigan was surprised because he knew the man could read, write and function normally. Wigan therefore concluded that if one cerebral hemisphere was capable of supporting a fully functioning mind and personality, it followed that normal humans with two intact hemispheres must have two minds.

In the 1960s, Neurobiologist Dr. Roger Sperry performed a series of “split-brain experiments” that cleared the way for a better understanding of the duality of our minds. Normally, both cerebral hemispheres of the brain are joined by millions of nerve fibres called the corpus callosum. Sperry cut the fibres of the corpus callosum of people experiencing severe epileptic seizures. The studies revealed that when surgically separated, the two hemispheres function as two independent brains with unique personalities and specialise in different tasks. His work indefining the functional specialisation of the cerebral hemispheres earned him and his colleagues the Nobel Prize for Physiology or Medicine in 1981.

The right hemisphere controls the left side of the body and is the creative side. It is involved with images, emotions, music, imagination, spatial awareness, intuition, spontaneity, movement, visual memory and holism (the big picture). The left hemisphere controls the right side of the body and is the logic and reasoning side. It is involved with language (reading, writing, speaking), analysis, auditory memory, linear time, sequencing, and details.

Using functional imaging (fMRI), scientists are now capable of visualising which specific neurons are engaged in performing a designated function. They have found that because the hemispheres are so neuronally integrated via the corpus callosum, practically every cognitive behaviour we exhibit involves activity of both hemispheres – each hemisphere simplyprocesses information differently, all the while complementing each other. It is nearly impossible to distinguish what is going on in the right versus the left hemisphere because our two hemispheres are so adept at weaving together a seamless perception of the world. So rather than having two distinct brains, we really have two complementary halves of a whole brain. It makes sense that we were designed to simultaneously use the functionality of both hemispheres and that doing so would enhance the overall processing capacity and performance of our brain. For example, when confronted with a problem, the right brain’s creativity is essential to generating ideas and options and the left brain’s logic is crucial to analysing their feasibility and implementing the solution.

So why does it seem that Western society tends to favour the left-brain? Logic, reason, academic learning and‘rational thinking’ seem to be more highly valued. Roger Sperry himself said that modern society “discriminates against the right hemisphere.” But as we have just seen, our brains were designed to reach their optimum capacity when both hemispheres work seamlessly together. So, is it right to rely so heavily on the left brain? 

The story of Harvard-trained Brain Scientist Jill Bolte-Taylor offers an interesting view of what we might be missing out on by living our lives in left-brain dominance. She proposes that feelings of wellbeing, optimism, joy and deep inner peace are available to us if we learn to “step to the right” of our left brains. In 1996 Taylor was responsible for teaching students about the human brain at Harvard Medical School. One morning she experienced a rare form of stroke in the left hemisphere of her brain. Within four hours a major haemorrhage had completely deteriorated her left brain’s ability to process information – she could no longer walk, talk, read, write or recall any of her life.

Taylor’s book My Stroke of Insight documents her journey in both suffering from the stroke and recovering from it. She recounts the step-by-step deterioration of her cognitive abilities in extraordinary detail, using the benefit of her knowledge as a neuroanatomist. Yet Taylor claims that she “learned as much about my brain and how it functions during that stroke, as I had in all my years of academia.”What she experienced as her left hemisphere functions deserted her is nothing less than fascinating, so what did she find?

Peace. She found that as her left brain faculties stopped processing information about the world, she felt strangely detached from normal reality and became grounded in the present. Taylor describes how the constant stream of internal chatter about the external world and herrelationship to it left her and in its place she became conscious and constantly present with her mind. Instead of looking for answers and information and constant chatter, she met with a growing sense of peace, or as she describes it “I felt enfolded by a blanket of tranquil euphoria”. She also eloquently describes this “void of higher cognition and details pertaining to normal life” as feeling as if her“consciousness soared into all-knowingness, a ‘being at one’ with the universe.”

It took Taylor roughly eight years to reconstruct her left brain abilities – she had to learn to read, write, talk and walk again. While she was doing this she was able to observe things that modern neuroscientists where missing in their primarily neurological perspective of the functionalhemispheric asymmetries. Taylor became interested in the psychological or personality differences contained within the two hemispheres and was able to note what happened when her left mind was no longer able to dominate her personality as it had done prior to her stroke. 

In the absence of her left hemisphere’s analytical judgement and attachment to time-based thinking, she found that the right mind:

- Celebrates its freedom in the universe and is not bogged down by the past or fearful of thefuture.

- Is open to new possibilities, willing to try new things and thinks out of the box.

- Is all about the richness of the present moment.

- Is filled with gratitude, it is content, compassionate, nurturing, and eternally optimistic. There is no judgement of good/bad or right/wrong, so everything exists in a continuum of relativity.

- Takes things as they are, acknowledges what is present and pays no attention to territories or artificial boundaries like race or religion.

- Allows the freedom to explore the world with childlike curiosity.

- Is adventurous, celebrative of abundance and socially adept.

- Is sensitive to non-verbal communication, empathic, and accurately decodes emotion.

- Is open to the eternal flow, existing at one with the universe.

- Is the seat of the ‘divine mind’,  it is the knower, the wise man/woman, and the observer.

It’s quite a list! Taylor’s experience of losing her left mind has led her to believe that the feeling of deep inner peace is simply neurological circuitry – which is located in the right brain. This circuitry is constantly running and always available for us to hook into. In other words, peace is something that can only happen in the present moment and only the right mind is capable of experiencing the present moment. Sounds like the right brain could be quite useful – I don’t know anyone who isn’t in need of some peace!


My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey, Jill Bolte-Taylor, Ph.D

The Split Brain Experiments, Nobelprize.org

Left Brain, Right Brain, ABC Science http://www.abc.net.au/science/articles/2004/06/24/2856996.ht

It is liberating to know that I have the ability to choose a peaceful and loving mind (my right mind), whatever my physical or mental circumstances, by deciding to step to the right and bring my thoughts back to the present moment. This stroke of insight has given me the priceless gift of knowing that deep inner peace is a thought/feeling away.
— Jill Bolte-Taylor